Falling for a woman who doesn’t know my name.

The Art Of Asking Book Cover The Art Of Asking
Amanda Palmer
Grand Central Publishing
November 11, 2014
342 pages
Hoopla, but I have purchased a paper copy.

Rock star, crowdfunding pioneer, and TED speaker Amanda Palmer knows all about asking. Performing as a living statue in a wedding dress, she wordlessly asked thousands of passersby for their dollars. When she became a singer, songwriter, and musician, she was not afraid to ask her audience to support her as she surfed the crowd (and slept on their couches while touring). And when she left her record label to strike out on her own, she asked her fans to support her in making an album, leading to the world's most successful music Kickstarter.

Even while Amanda is both celebrated and attacked for her fearlessness in asking for help, she finds that there are important things she cannot ask for-as a musician, as a friend, and as a wife. She learns that she isn't alone in this, that so many people are afraid to ask for help, and it paralyzes their lives and relationships. In this groundbreaking book, she explores these barriers in her own life and in the lives of those around her, and discovers the emotional, philosophical, and practical aspects of THE ART OF ASKING.

Part manifesto, part revelation, this is the story of an artist struggling with the new rules of exchange in the twenty-first century, both on and off the Internet. THE ART OF ASKING will inspire readers to rethink their own ideas about asking, giving, art, and love.

I’ve never met this woman, and I doubt I ever will unless she does some sort of tour to Colorado. How does this happen? simple. She develops a relationship with you without even knowing who you are. I truly didn’t even see it coming. In fact, I had this woman’s book on my shelf for a very long time before giving it consideration. I ordered it because she was the wife of my favorite author and I like a song I had heard of hers. When her husband, Neil Gaiman, posted about his wife’s book I needed it to be next to his on my ‘signed’ shelf. That’s right, I ordered a signed copy of this woman’s book just because I have a signed book addiction. I followed her on facebook but I didn’t really “SEE” her. Though, I did enjoy her posts. When I noticed an audio copy of ‘The Art of Asking’ on hoopla, I figured I would give it a go. After all, due to illness, my eyesight is failing a bit quickly recently and I’m running out of audiobooks that I want to check out.

The Art of Asking didn’t indulge me like any other book has; To quote one of my favorite books, “I fell in love the way you fall asleep: slowly, and then all at once.” When I started listening to bits and pieces of Amanda Palmer’s book, I found it to be enjoyable. It didn’t take long to notice I had read the stories regarding her and never realized it was Amanda Palmer that they were attacking. By the halfway point, I had fallen head over heels. I had fallen for her voice, humor, struggles, for her friends…but mostly her. It wasn’t just the book that triggered this, but her as a person. I started to pay more attention to her social media accounts. I saw as her fans would post that they weren’t in a great place and watch as she would ask them to message her. She was there as a friend. I’ve never seen this before.

I’ve learned a lot about Amanda and honestly a bit about myself as well. Amanda isn’t a big time author that has no connection to the little guys. She’s the real deal. I found myself crying for her lows and highs. I quickly told my friends to read it any way they could get their hands on, and I’m glad they are listening. This book has left me feeling incomplete. I miss it already and I’m genuinely considering giving it a second listen so I can enjoy it a bit more this time. It’s that good. It isn’t your typical ‘self-help’, I wouldn’t even consider it that. It’s so much more. If you need a good read – just grab it. You won’t regret it.

Since I did listen to the book, I will add this piece into my review. She did a fantastic time narrating the book and I think it might be the way to go if you’re interested in reading it. Her voice made it feel much more intimate. She also has songs between parts of it which added to the stories in my opinion. If she ever writes another book I’ll listen to it instead of reading it. From other reviews I’ve read, it’s probably written the way she talks. I like that but I can see it being an issue if I read it on paper.

Now, ear muffs to those who haven’t read the book. I’m crying as I’m writing this as I just finished the book at 11 pm. I should be in bed as I have to be up with my son at 6. I can’t sleep with such a complete broken heart. After finishing the book I had the realization they named their son after Anthony. I had to see how he was doing and searched her blog. I’m mourning a man I have never met. I shouldn’t have checked. I was expecting pictures of both Anthonys and now my heart hurts. This story was moving on so many levels. RIP Anthony, You’ve touched more people than you probably imagined possible.

I’m a geek blogger, mom, a wife, and a reader. My family and I are currently living in the beautiful state of Colorado. I started my blog after I landed myself in the hospital for multiple pulmonary embolisms. It took over a year to diagnose me with lupus among other things. It’s been a long journey but I wouldn’t change it for the world. I read all genres and I write about anything I feel like; From my issues with Lupus/RA/pulmonary embolisms to what is going on in the book world. Every day is a new adventure!
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